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Porn – A Mother’s Concern and Action | Stephanie Boye | TEDxCharleston
NOTE FROM TED: This talk contains commentary on pornographic content and only represents the speaker’s personal understanding of the pornography industry. Research on pornography has yielded mixed results, and certain claims in this talk have not been corroborated by sufficient evidence. TEDx events are independently organized by volunteers. The guidelines we give TEDx organizers are described in more detail here: http://storage.ted.com/tedx/manuals/tedx_content_guidelines.pdf It was her initial desire to be a conscientious mother that led her to look into—and ultimately uncover—the disturbing landscape of modern pornography and its impact on teenagers. Since then, it has morphed into a passion project for Stephanie Boye to see that everyone becomes “porn literate” to fully grasp the manipulation pornography has on intimacy, love and sexual engagement. A creative director, former LA clothing designer and current sexual assault counselor, Stephanie Boye is pulling back the curtain on societal norms to address teenage sex, pornography and its impact on the mental and emotional wellbeing of adolescents everywhere. With a documentary on the way and podcast dedicated to her mission, Stephanie is also a wife and mother to three teenagers. Sexuality today is drastically different from when parents were teenagers. This sexual assault counselor declares a new reality for the mental and emotional wellbeing of adolescents. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at https://www.ted.com/tedx
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Why I stopped watching porn | Ran Gavrieli | TEDxJaffa
Never miss a talk! SUBSCRIBE to the TEDx channel: http://bit.ly/1FAg8hB Ran Gavrili writes and lectures about emotional and physical safe sex; porn and porn-influenced cultural damages; gender and power relations; and sex and intimacy. You can learn more about Ran's work and lectures at his website: http://elsebyrangavrieli.com/ Ran lives in Tel Aviv and studies gender at Tel Aviv University. He works with youth and adults all over the country in sex and gender studies and in building positive self image in a world inundated by sexual imagery with negative connotations. In the spirit of ideas worth spreading, TEDx is a program of local, self-organized events that bring people together to share a TED-like experience. At a TEDx event, TEDTalks video and live speakers combine to spark deep discussion and connection in a small group. These local, self-organized events are branded TEDx, where x = independently organized TED event. The TED Conference provides general guidance for the TEDx program, but individual TEDx events are self-organized.* (*Subject to certain rules and regulations). For more information on this particular TEDx event, see http://www.tedxjaffa.com
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The great porn experiment | Gary Wilson | TEDxGlasgow
NOTE FROM TED: This talk contains several assertions that are not supported by academically respected studies in medicine and psychology. While some viewers might find advice provided in this talk to be helpful, please do not look to this talk for medical advice. In response to Philip Zimbardo's "The Demise of Guys?" TED talk, Gary Wilson asks whether our brains evolved to handle the hyperstimulation of today's Internet enticements. He also discusses the disturbing symptoms showing up in some heavy Internet users, the surprising reversal of those symptoms, and the science behind these 21st century phenomena. More About Gary Wilson Gary is host of www.yourbrainonporn.com. The site arose in response to a growing demand for solid scientific information by heavy Internet erotica users experiencing perplexing, unexpected effects: escalation to more extreme material, concentration difficulties, sexual performance problems, radical changes in sexual tastes, social anxiety, irritability, inability to stop, and obsessive-compulsive symptoms. As a physiology teacher with a particular interest in the latest neuroscience discoveries, Gary was aware that their symptoms might be the result of addiction-related brain changes. Applying the website's concepts of brain plasticity, many former users have braved withdrawal, reversed their symptoms and restored normal sexual responsiveness. The site has been linked to from hundreds of threads in forums from over thirty countries, with posts numbering in the thousands. Gary blogs for "Psychology Today" and "The Good Men Project" on the extreme plasticity of adolescent brains, the evolutionary context for today's flood of novel cyber "mates," and the neurochemical reasons why superstimulating Internet delivery has unexpected effects on the brain. Many thanks to Pat Somers of Slow Moving Pictures for the skillful editing of this video. In the spirit of ideas worth spreading, TEDx is a program of local, self-organized events that bring people together to share a TED-like experience. At a TEDx event, TEDTalks video and live speakers combine to spark deep discussion and connection in a small group. These local, self-organized events are branded TEDx, where x = independently organized TED event. The TED Conference provides general guidance for the TEDx program, but individual TEDx events are self-organized.* (*Subject to certain rules and regulations)
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Al Vernacchio: Sex needs a new metaphor. Here's one ...
For some reason, says educator Al Vernacchio, the metaphors for talking about sex in the US all come from baseball -- scoring, getting to first base, etc. The problem is, this frames sex as a competition, with a winner and a loser. Instead, he suggests a new metaphor, one that's more about shared pleasure, discussion and agreement, fulfillment and enjoyment. Let's talk about ... pizza. TEDTalks is a daily video podcast of the best talks and performances from the TED Conference, where the world's leading thinkers and doers give the talk of their lives in 18 minutes (or less). Look for talks on Technology, Entertainment and Design -- plus science, business, global issues, the arts and much more. Find closed captions and translated subtitles in many languages at http://www.ted.com/translate Follow TED news on Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/tednews Like TED on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TED Subscribe to our channel: http://www.youtube.com/user/TEDtalksDirector
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Sex, Porn & Manhood | Warren Binford | TEDxSalem
The impact of internet porn on developing brains. Interpretation for TEDxSalem 2017 was provided by student interns through a collaboration between Western Oregon University, TEDxSalem, and the Deaf and interpreting communities of Oregon. The volunteer student interpreters were supported by volunteer, certified interpreters in order to minimize potential errors. Your support of these pre-professional interpreters’ growing skills is appreciated. Warren Binford works to improve the lives of children wherever she goes. A Willamette University professor, she taught middle school in South Central LA before Teach for America was a thing. She served abused and neglected children as a Court Appointed Special Advocate, and picked law as a career to protect kids. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at http://ted.com/tedx
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How Porn Skews Sexual Expectations | Cindy Pierce | TEDxKenmoreSquare
Cindy Pierce urges parents to step into their role as the primary sexuality educators for their children and encourages schools to develop comprehensive sexuality education, including porn literacy. Informed kids tend to be more discerning about what they consume on devices and better equipped to navigate cultural messaging online and off. Cindy Pierce is an author, educational speaker, storyteller, innkeeper and mother of three young adults. Combining years of research and comic storytelling, she engages audiences with her message about how proactive sexuality education helps young people make healthier choices and navigate cultural pressures. Cindy is the author of Sexploitation: Helping Kids Develop Healthy Sexuality in a Porn-Driven World and Sex, College and Social Media: A Commonsense Guide to Navigating the Hookup Culture. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at https://www.ted.com/tedx
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Why we need to talk about porn | Jo Robertson | TEDxChristchurch
Warning: This talk contains explicit verbal descriptions of aggressive pornography. With one in four children being exposed to online porn by the age of twelve or younger, it's critical we know what they're seeing—and it's critical we talk to them about it. Jo Robertson is a sex therapist who researches porn. In this gut-wrenching and unflinching talk, she explains the new porn landscape, the potential impacts on our kids, and how to get past the awkwardness and have the healthy conversations we need to have. Jo Robertson is the Research and Training Lead for The Light Project, a charitable trust equipping youth, whānau and professionals to navigate the new porn landscape. From an early age, Jo knew she wanted to serve people; she had a strong concern for those who felt no one was listening to them. This compelled her to train in social policy, counselling and sexual health, and to earn her Master’s of Science in sex therapy, with a focus on the consumption rates and impacts of porn on adolescents. After completing her education and training, Jo went on to work in trauma and abuse counselling roles with children and young people; she now works in private practice as a sex therapist, helping couples restore intimacy, or with problematic sexual behaviours. Jo is married to an exceptional man named Dave who runs a youth mentoring organisation, and has three young boys. Like all parents, she is very low on sleep, self-care and showers. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at https://www.ted.com/tedx
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What young women believe about their own sexual pleasure | Peggy Orenstein
Why do girls feel empowered to engage in sexual activity but not to enjoy it? For three years, author Peggy Orenstein interviewed girls ages 15 to 20 about their attitudes toward and experiences of sex. She discusses the pleasure that's largely missing from their sexual encounters and calls on us to close the "orgasm gap" by talking candidly with our girls from an early age about sex, bodies, pleasure and intimacy. Note: Comments are disabled for this video because YouTube's comment moderation tools are not up to the task of maintaining a quality discourse here. You are welcome and invited to comment on the talk at TED.com https://go.ted.com/Cy26. The TED Talks channel features the best talks and performances from the TED Conference, where the world's leading thinkers and doers give the talk of their lives in 18 minutes (or less). Look for talks on Technology, Entertainment and Design -- plus science, business, global issues, the arts and more. Follow TED on Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/TEDTalks Like TED on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TED Subscribe to our channel: https://www.youtube.com/TED
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Let’s Talk Porn | Maria Ahlin | TEDxGöteborg
We have to talk about porn! We have to talk about what message porn is sending and what it teaches our children! More and more extreme content found in mainstream porn, making people less sensitive to sexual aggression. Despite these alarming facts, porn is still one of our biggest taboos. Today, most children are first exposed to pornography at a worryingly young age, in fact, porn is the number one sex educator among young teenagers. Porn is a drug, but why isn’t it treated as an addiction? In addition to being a public speaker, author and educator Maria is also head of youth organization 'Changing attitudes'. As an expert on issues concerning pornography and sex-buying she has given more than 400 public talks. In her research, she has met with more than 500 people in prostitution, as well as thousands of sex-offenders. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at https://www.ted.com/tedx
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TESTIMONIALS
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50 Shades - Has Porn Ruined My Chance Of A Happy Marriage? Russell Brand The Trews (E261)
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Gabe Deem Full Interview From Porn On The Brain
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I WAS ADDICTED TO P0RN FOR 10 YEARS | MY STORY OF HOW I OVERCAME ADDICTION
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How Terry Crews Overcame Porn Addiction | WWHL
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I Was Addicted To Porn At Age 12 || Mark's Story
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Porn’s Impact on Kids: A Serious Issue - Gabe Deem on Capitol Hill
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Wayfarer Studios
Man Enough Episode 2 - Let's Get Vulnerable
Why is it so difficult for men to be vulnerable? All new #MeToo episode premieres July 24th. #ManEnough http://bit.ly/WeAreManEnough
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Wayfarer Studios
Man Enough Episode 1 - Why Don't Men Talk
In the first episode of Man Enough, Justin Baldoni sits down with Prince Ea, Derek Hough, Javier Munoz, Bassem Youssef, and Matt McGorry to have an open discussion about traditional masculinity and why men don’t typically talk. All new #MeToo episode premieres July 24th on Facebook Watch. #ManEnough http://bit.ly/WeAreManEnough
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Man Enough Episode 3 - The Ugliness of Body Image
How do you define 'body image'? All new #MeToo episode premieres July 24th on Facebook Watch. #ManEnough http://bit.ly/WeAreManEnough
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How to have the Sex vs Porn talk with your daughter
In the good old days the sex talk was enough... but our kids aren't growing up in the good old days they're growing up in a world that many of us parents have no idea about. https://www.ourkidsonline.info/ Check out our new resources site for parents - find filters, books, talks and articles on how to protect your kids online https://www.ourkidsonline.info/ As parents we need to educate ourselves so we can protect and educate our kids as to the dangers of free 24/7 anonymous access to online porn. Here's a short cartoon to help introduce the topic - whether you're a Dad, Mum, single, married, straight, gay, bi, green, orange or pink.
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Social Media Dangers Exposed by Mom Posing as 11-Year-Old
A 37-year old mom goes undercover as an 11-year old girl to expose the dangers facing kids on social media platforms like Instagram, Snapchat, TikTok, and Kik. Left unsupervised, young children can be exposed to online predators, grooming, and psychological abuse within minutes. For more information please visit: https://info.bark.us/stonefish In 2018 alone, Bark alerted the FBI to 99 child predators. In 2019? That number is more than 300 — and counting. Each of these cases represents a real child experiencing real harm, and our challenge is to help parents and schools understand this new reality. But how do we tell stories without asking families to divulge too much? We started this project to explain online grooming to a generation who didn’t grow up with this danger. About Bark Bark helps families manage and protect their children’s digital lives. Our award-winning service monitors 30+ of the most popular apps and social media platforms for signs of issues like cyberbullying, suicidal ideation, online predators, threats of violence, and more. Our web filtering and screen time management tools empower families to set healthy limits around the websites and apps their kids can access and when they can visit them. To learn more or sign-up visit: https://www.bark.us/
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WANNA HAVE SEX? (CONSENT 101)
2021 UPDATE: now streaming T/Th on twitch! http://www.twitch.tv/laci_green facebook - http://www.facebook.com/officiallacigreen twitter - http://www.twitter.com/gogreen18 instagram - http://www.instagram.com/lacigreen RESOURCES Under Title IX, college administrators MUST investigate sexual assault cases: http://knowyourix.org/ Reporting assault/rape to police: http://rainn.org/get-information/legal-information Was it sexual assault? http://www.loveisrespect.org/is-this-abuse/types-of-abuse/what-is-sexual-abuse Male sexual assault: http://rainn.org/get-information/types-of-sexual-assault/male-sexual-assault Join the respect revolution: http://www.yesmeansyes.com/ Scarleteen's consent overview: http://www.scarleteen.com/article/abuse_assault/drivers_ed_for_the_sexual_superhighway_navigating_consent Age of consent by state: http://aspe.hhs.gov/hsp/08/sr/statelaws/statelaws.shtml Types of sexual coercion: http://bandbacktogether.com/sexual-coercion-resources/ Men can stop rape (healthy masculinity): http://www.mencanstoprape.org/ The Rape, Abuse, and Consent National Network: http://www.rainn.org SUMMARY In this video, Laci Green offers a basic overview to sexual consent: how to properly ask for consent, as well as what consent does and does not sound like. In the second half of the video, she discusses a few circumstances in which consent cannot be obtained (when the person is drunk, underage, or when you're an authority figure). She concludes on the thought that cultivating a culture where good consent is the norm is one of the most powerful ways to prevent sexual assault, and we all have to be a part of it.
DOCUMENTARIES
DOCUMENTARIES
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Trailer: Brain. Heart. World. - A documentary series from FTND
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Our Kids Online: Porn, Predators & How to Keep them Safe
Follow the journey of two filmmaker parents who accidentally stumbled on the biggest un-had conversation of our time, while researching the pros and cons of handheld devices for their children. A must-see documentary for every parent on how to protect our kids from online predators and the fallout from exposure to today's genres of hardcore, violent, degrading porn.
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Porn on the Brain documentary. Channel 4
I do not own the copyright. As part of Channel 4’s Campaign for Real Sex, Porn on the Brain is an authored film by journalist Martin Daubney, who walked away from his position as editor of lad’s magazine, Loaded, after becoming a father. His son is now four. Confused by the alarming headlines and driven by the knowledge that his boy will soon reach the age at which most children first see porn (10 yrs) Martin wants to find some answers. Is porn really bad for kids? Where is the evidence? * may have some adult content triggers.
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